Pre-pandemic, I went to hear the author Nicole Krauss speak about her novel Forest Dark. I'm a big fan of Krauss' writing. The day I heard the author speak, she had published an opinion piece in the NYT Sunday Magazine called "Do Women Get to Write with Authority?" In the article, Krauss highlights the lack of power women writers have compared to men, and specifically, how female artists' work is often characterized as "lovely," a word she describes as lacking in "independent power."
I must admit that I sometimes use the word "lovely" (both for women and men) when I like someone. But Krauss made me think about the word in the context of achievement - not personality - and her point is well-taken.
With medical school interviews starting soon, you should keep in mind that you want the faculty member you've met to leave saying you were "accomplished," not "lovely." Many applicants miss this point: You don't want to simply be liked; you want to be seen as worthy. It's critical that you focus on that important goal as you practice for interviews, crafting strategic, substantive responses to potential questions.
I would strongly recommend Krauss' History of Love (her best book in my opinion), Great House, Forest Dark and To Be A Man.
